5 Personal Style Basics You Need to Know
Finding your personal style can be tough, especially when you don't know the basics or have any idea where to start. Well, the great thing is that it's all about you. So you won't have to go too far or work too hard to figure it out. Which is great news because we don't want something as simple as personal style to stop us from saving the world, am I right? But before we discover what your personal style is, we have, to begin with, the basics. Personal style is all about showcasing your personality through clothes. So basically you're manipulating pieces you like into something that expresses who you are. So it's crucial we set a foundation and build on it. Especially if you're new to fashion or style. You gotta crawl before you walk and walk before you run. So let's get into the basics you need to know and ask yourself.
1. Make sure it's "you".
Personal style needs to be personal. It's not about anyone but you. So you need to make sure that it's an accurate depiction of who you are or who you want to be. Yes. It's great to find inspiration and have a style icon, but to mimic their every outfit and style choice would only be drowning out your unique personality and creativity.
I often have to catch myself with this one. I follow so many great fashion bloggers and influencers that I sometimes find myself mimicking their style, then I have to kinda give myself a "style slap", and bring myself back. Their style is great and it looks great on me, but I never feel like myself. And that's essential! You must feel like "you" when it comes to your personal style. Hint: Personal, so be personal! The world needs you, not another version of someone else.
2. Be comfortable or let it go.
For years, I have been trying to convince myself that I'm a heel person. I've bought so many gorgeous pairs and have made some super cute outfits with them. But no matter how hard I try or how awesome I look, I'll never be 100% comfortable wearing heels all the time. I honestly don't understand how some people do it and I actually admire them for it. But I've now come to the realization that I won't be a member of the "wear heels every day or often" club because it just isn't me nor does it make me comfortable. And to be honest, I was super disappointed by that.
I thought in order to be stylish and consider on top of your fashion game, that you had to be a heel wearer. But after being brutally honest with myself, I've been slowly accepting the fact that flats are okay and these days they can be just as stylish and awesome as heels. And of course I'll still wear heels for special occasions and such, they just aren't an integral part of my style. So if you're not comfortable with wearing something, then let it go. It's crucial for you to be comfortable with your style. If you're not it's gonna show and that's definitely not cute.
3. What are you trying to say?
Our personal style is our message to the world about who we are or want to be. So what are you saying? If you could look at yourself in the mirror right now or remember what your last outfit looked like, what would it be saying? And would it be true to who you are or what you're striving to be?
For me, my main goal in life is to be successful in whatever I'm passionate about. So every morning before I get dressed for work, I always keep that in mind and dress accordingly. I'm not gonna wear anything that's baggy or that doesn't suit my body type or my personality because it's not the message I want to send to the world. And it definitely doesn't keep me focused on my goals. Trust me, you'd be surprised how what you wear can unconsciously affect your attitude and mind. So you've got to make sure that your personal style is saying what you want it to say! And make it good.
4. How do you want to feel?
Your personal style should evoke some kind of emotion. Do you want to feel smarter? Then I suggest you avoid wearing sweats 24/7. Do you want to feel more confident? Then you should probably start wearing clothes tailored to your body type. And yes, you can feel those things without changing the way you dress, but I know for a fact that our minds can sync to what we wear and that it can manifest itself into our thinking and behavior. For example: Would you wear jeans to go to bed? or your pajamas to work? Nope. Because when we wear our pajamas to bed it gets us in the mood for sleep and relaxation. And when we wear workwear to work, we position our minds for the task of the day.
That's why I can never wear comfy clothes when I'm trying to do work at home if I do, I more than likely just feel like vegging out on the couch. What we wear has the ability to dictate how we feel. So how do you want your personal style to make you feel?
5. Practicality is life.
If you work in an office all day, you definitely don't want your personal style to be built on your love of mini dresses. It just isn't practical for your life. Now that doesn't mean you can't indulge in your mini dress love, it just means that you need more of a balance with your style. So you like dresses, then you can certainly find work appropriate dresses that fit your occupation. It's all about balancing what you love with what is practical for your everyday life. Personally, for my job I have to dress in the typical corporate kinda way, but I make sure that my personality is shown through as well.
I would hate to tailor my entire wardrobe to the drab corporate standard of dress. So I make sure to have a balance between the rules of my job and the way I love to dress. Not only is it fun to put my personal twist on it but it also helps me stay practical without sacrificing my style. Lastly, when it comes to practicality, you should also take your age and lifestyle into consider. Make sure your personality style fits into your life and that it doesn't dominate and stays true to who you are and how you live.
Bottom line, personal style is a canvas where we all have the chance to show our creativity and express ourselves to the world. And one of the best parts is that we don't have to say a word. Because, if you're like me, you'd probably take all day trying to explain your personality and who you are, whereas with your personal style, everyone can get a glimpse of you before you even open your mouth.
So to end this first installment, if someone got a glimpse of your last outfit or an outfit you loved, what would it say about you? And would it be accurate? If not, no worries, I'll be helping you figure out why and how to find your style next week.
If you have any questions or would like to add anything to this, leave me a comment. I would love to hear from you.